Well, folks. 2021 is coming to an end and 2022 is fast upon us. Which means it’s time for a recap post!
I wish I could say I did a lot of interesting and fun things this year. With the Covid-19 pandemic among us, fun and interesting things were few and far between.
The year started out well. My partner and I celebrated our first anniversary. Nabisco came out with gluten-free Oreos at long last! I got to visit my family home to help my parent recover from an injury. My partner and I looked at a bunch of houses, made an offer on a few and had one accepted! Finally, some stability for me.
We moved in together and things were going well. We were having fun being able to see each other all the time, getting to show the house off to family and friends, and making the house our home. I was able to go see some Cardinals games in the brief lull of Covid cases early in the summer. We got our Covid vaccines and later in the year, our booster shots. I was able to go to a quilt retreat with my relatives and work on other hobbies in the year like stained glass and counted cross stitch. I attended EconoMe and was able to see internet friends in real life again!
Somewhere along the way, it all went sideways. Covid cases came roaring back which meant few activities outside the house. Work kicked into high gear as we scrambled to order supplies and ready everyone for the return to the building. I was forced to go back into the office a few days a week. Things with my partner faltered and then fell apart completely. We ended up not making it to our second anniversary.
So, once again, I pack up my life and move on. I think we will both be better off in the long run and I wish him nothing but the best. I believe everyone deserves to be with a partner that adds to their life. Covid both helped and hindered our relationship.
I’m a lot sad we couldn’t make it work and that I’ll be starting over again at the age of 31. But now that I no longer want to have biological children of my own (thanks to my ADHD and to climate change), I find I no longer feel the pressure of a clock to have a partner and create a family. It is incredibly freeing.
The title of this post is “Time Well Wasted” which is a song by Brad Paisley. Neither of us wasted the other’s time as it’s a global panini. It’s quite hard to date in a pandemic, so if we had broken up earlier chances are high neither of us would’ve gone on to date others right away. We had a good time together even if we didn’t work out as a couple.
“But what about that big, awesome house you bought together!?” Well, when we bought the house we signed an agreement that in the event of a breakup, he could buy me out, I could buy him out, or we could sell and split the profit based on how much we both had put in. I do not want to buy him out (nor do I have the cash) so he is going to be buying me out either through a refinance or a loan assumption. If everything goes as planned, that means I will have about $10,000 coming my way at the very least, which will be nice to have.
This time, I don’t need to move to another state and/or find a job. I’m staying in St Louis at my job, so I will be moving into a sweet bachelorette condo in downtown St Louis. This will eliminate my commute and put me closer to all the fun things St Louis has to offer! I’m very excited to be back in an area that is walkable and not so car dependent. 2022 will be a great year to get in touch with myself again and figure out what I want my life to look like. Should Covid actually subside and allow us to live our lives again, I’ll be able to do fun things like speak at the Chautauqua in Ecuador, attend a Colbie Caillat concert, all of the Blues and Cardinals games, and maybe even travel to visit friends again. There’s a bookstore in Nashville calling my name!
I hope your 2021 treated you well, and that your 2022 is your best year yet. Happy new year, friends!
Thanks for reading! Do you have any big goals or plans for the new year?