No time to bury the lede — I’m moving to St. Louis!
Reactions from friends and family have varied when I tell them I got a new job and am moving yet again.
Anonymous family member: “Good grief! Another job change? You haven’t been at this one for 6 months! .…whichever, I wish the best for you”
Friend #1: “No kidding! Where to this time? You’re the most portable person I know!”
Friend #2: “You’re moving again? You move more than anyone I know.”
Friend #3: “Her cat has moved more than the average American!”
Sensing a theme in the reactions so far? It turns out taking risks and trying to make a better life for myself looks like a ton of moves. In the last 2 years, I will have changed addresses 6 times. 6 times! That is a ton of moving. Good thing I’m practically a pro at it now. As much as it’s cool to know exactly how to pack my stuff in a moving truck, I’m actually really tired of moving around and changing jobs. I just want to settle down at a place and stay there for a few decades.
After graduating from college and settling into my first company, I was rather unhappy. I had had grand plans for my life and they didn’t include being in a small Midwestern town. I chafed at the restrictions of cheap food, cheap drinks, and cheap rent. Woe was me! I thought the answer was quitting my job and moving to Minneapolis to be with my then-boyfriend. I loved Minneapolis, but not having a job and a failing relationship made living there stressful.
Obviously, the best path forward for me was to move to an even bigger, more expensive city on the East Coast. I had finally made it. I was living my dream.
But if I was living my dream, why was I still unhappy? Why was I still struggling to find a date? There are so many more educated white-collar kinda guys who can appreciate what I have to offer! Why was I homesick and missing my family? Why did I think the dream looked like paying 60% of my expenses in rent and not being able to save a lot of money?
I wrote about the job searching process and how much it sucked. Not getting the job at the fancy tech company really made me sit back and evaluate pretty much every facet of my life. However.… it turns out I didn’t get that job so I could get this new job in St. Louis!
Allow me to wax poetically on the wonders of St. Louis for a brief moment. St. Louis is my idea of a big city. I grew up a few hours away from St. Louis and visited about once a year. My first memory of St. Louis is visiting with my Girl Scout troop when I was 9 or 10. We went up into the Arch and explored the Galleria mall. It was huge AND they had a dELiA*s!
I’ve written about being a St. Louis Cardinals fan before, so I’ll keep that short. I’m a proud 3rd generation Cardinals fan, so I will absolutely love being close to my favorite team again. I’ll be working in downtown St. Louis, a quick walk from Busch Stadium. I don’t think I’ll get season tickets but I will be there to see more than a few games!
I have a few friends from “real life” that live in the area. I am thrilled at the idea of getting to rekindle and/or deepen those friendships by getting to hang out in person again! Technology is wonderful, but it doesn’t hold a candle to talking and hanging out in real life.
My family will be a short drive away from me, so I’m happy I’ll get to be around for more things like birthday parties and holidays. Those have been in short supply for the last few years.
Leaving Washington, DC
On the one hand, I am thrilled to death to leave the holy-Mother-of-Pearl EXPENSIVE DMV area. My rent sucks up a ton of money each month. I also don’t need to worry about getting my car inspected before getting a driver’s license and Virginia plates. On the other hand, I’ve made a ton of connections to people here that I’ll be sad I can’t just hang out with them on a random Tuesday. Wonderful people are not a reason to stay in an area though, as they tend to move around as well.
I am very excited to leave my current company. The environment isn’t very conducive to excelling at a career (especially when they’re laying off a ton of people and rumors swirl my team will be next). I am probably equally as excited to start working for the new company. They are stable and will be around for a long time. The people seem great and the awesome benefits will be the icing on the cake. I’m actually going to be getting a slight raise at the new job, which will be super nice to have in conjunction with a drastically lower cost of living area.
So when does all this fun start? SOON! The new job has a tentative start date of December 9th, which is now less than 4 weeks away. I need to give notice at my current job, give written notice of my intent to vacate my apartment early (and eat the 2 months’ rent breakage fee!), get boxes, start packing my stuff (and giving away some of it), arrange moving logistics and find a place to live in St. Louis. If anyone has any leads on an apartment near downtown like in the CWE or Tower Park area, let me know!
I’m also looking forward to hanging out with the FIRE community in St. Louis! I already know a few people there and am looking forward to meeting more awesome people. When I moved to DC, I joked it was because I didn’t want to travel to FinCon later in the year. Now, we can say I’m moving to St. Louis because I don’t want to travel to the Financial Freedom Summit ha! It’s being held in May and I am appreciative of the fact I won’t have to fly there and/or figure out accommodations now.
I’m very excited about this next chapter in life and I’m determined to make the most of this opportunity. I’m looking forward to settling down for a long time and making a great life in St. Louis!
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